The last few weeks have been emotionally taxing on many Americans. The outcome of the most recent presidential election has left many in shock, paralyzed even. So much so, that, Psychologists have described what more than half the nation and much of the world, are experiencing as grief. “There’s one definition of what we often grieve for, which seems to capture what a lot of us are feeling now: It’s a loss of hope, of expectation, illusions, what we projected would be the path we’d be on.” Robert Zucker, grief expert, social worker and author of The Journey Through Grief And Loss.
For many, the grief is real and not one that should be masked, minimized or feel hurried to get over but as with any other loss the process of moving on involves self reflection and search for the lessons.
When things happen that I don't initially find favorable I often try to sit with the outcome and ponder the lesson for as long as I need to. After-all, everything happens for a reason, right? Before anyone gets in a tizzy, I'll forewarn, this is not a political post. In fact, it's an invitation to join me on my everlasting journey of turning the lens inward. I teach my young daughter that she is only in control of her own actions so I'm taking a dose of my own medicine.
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If you subscribe to the belief that the external world is a reflection of our inner reality – both individually and collectively then one begs the question, what is the lesson here?
In Joseph Aldo's brilliantly written "Embracing the Shadow" he offers some perspective on Donald Trump's win..."it would be utterly impossible for a man like him to be president if the collective energy – consciously or unconsciously – didn’t support and reflect such a person. He is simply an embodiment of our own shadow and directing all this hatred, hostility and disgust towards him just feeds the energy he is embodying, perpetuating the shadow and giving it deeper roots in this world."
Questions for thought
So I ask, are the hate, disgust, and intolerance we now observe across the country triggering our own hate, disgust and intolerance? Could it be we all summoned this energy because it exists in some capacity in each of us? There are no mistakes just lessons. So what are we to learn from these times? Is this perhaps a call for each of us to examine ourselves - our homes and hearts where everything begins? Can we change the trajectory of what so many anticipate in a Trump America by creating inner peace, love of self and others, acceptance and tolerance for all God has created?
Could it be Trump is playing a role...called to reveal that which needs to be healed within us? The Lord works in mysterious ways - and uses people we least expect. So, perhaps Trump did not even have a say. Those of us living or on a purposeful path know getting there can be easily be described as being "driven" down a a one-way street with no detour.
The journey to launch Little Proud Kid came from a dire need to ensure my own daughter had access to resources that validate her beauty and purpose. I wanted her know that she belongs - in her school, community and social circles. Today, as I chose light over dark, love over hate, peace over anger, I am even more driven to ensure my work with Little Proud Kid continues to serve minorities and undeserved cultures while promoting multiculturalism and acceptance of all people.
In hindsight, I've come face to face with my own inner Trump one too many times in relationships that no longer served me as well as in response to some of the recent atrocities observed in the news and on social media. (Yes, my takeaway begins with continued self healing). I owe it to myself to consider that what I'm observing in our nation today is an even greater call to become the change I need - for myself, as a mom, daughter, sister, friend and entrepreneur.
So again, I extend an invitation to anyone with whom article resonates to turn the lens inward, examine what role you play by way of thought, action or emotion that contribute to divisions and chaos in your own life. And decide today to become the change you need and I truly believe our individual efforts will collectively reshape the world in which we live.
Peace and Love,
Georgia Lobban is the Founder of Little Proud Kid, a place to celebrate all people… one people. We focus on bringing an array of multicultural toys, books, resources and more to help you teach and celebrate the uniqueness in each and every child.