Do We All Have a Little Trump in Us?


The last few weeks have been emotionally taxing on many Americans. The outcome of the most recent presidential election has left many in shock, paralyzed even. So much so, that, Psychologists have described what  more than half the nation and much of the world, are experiencing as grief. “There’s one definition of what we often grieve for, which seems to capture what a lot of us are feeling now: It’s a loss of hope, of expectation, illusions, what we projected would be the path we’d be on.” Robert Zucker, grief expert, social worker and author of The Journey Through Grief And Loss. Grief

For many, the grief is real and not one that should be masked, minimized or feel hurried to get over but as with any other loss the process of moving on involves self reflection and search for the lessons. 

Moving on

When things happen that  I don't initially find favorable I often try to sit with the outcome and ponder the lesson for as long as I need to.  After-all, everything happens for a reason, right? Before anyone gets in a tizzy, I'll forewarn, this is not a political post. In fact, it's an invitation to join me on my everlasting journey of turning the lens inward. I teach my young daughter that she is only in control of her own actions so I'm taking a dose of my own medicine. 

Still With Me? 

If you subscribe to the belief that the  external world is a reflection of our inner reality – both individually and collectively then one begs the question, what is the lesson here? 

In Joseph Aldo's brilliantly written "Embracing the Shadow" he offers some perspective on Donald Trump's win..."it would be utterly impossible for a man like him to be president if the collective energy – consciously or unconsciously – didn’t support and reflect such a person. He is simply an embodiment of our own shadow and directing all this hatred, hostility and disgust towards him just feeds the energy he is embodying, perpetuating the shadow and giving it deeper roots in this world." 

Questions for thought 

 So I ask, are the hate, disgust, and intolerance we now observe across the country triggering our own hate, disgust and intolerance? Could it be we all summoned this energy because it exists in some capacity in each of us? There are no mistakes just lessons. So what are we to learn from these times? Is this perhaps a call for each of us to examine ourselves - our homes and hearts where everything begins? Can we change the trajectory of what so many anticipate in a Trump America by creating inner peace, love of self and others, acceptance and tolerance for all God has created?

Could it be Trump is playing a role...called to reveal that which needs to be healed within us? The Lord works in mysterious ways - and uses people we least expect. So, perhaps Trump did not even have a say. Those of us living or on a purposeful path know getting there can be easily be described as being "driven" down a  a one-way street with no detour. 

The Take-away 

The journey to launch Little Proud Kid came from a dire need to ensure my own daughter had access to resources that validate her beauty and purpose. I wanted her know that she belongs - in her school, community and social circles. Today, as I chose light over dark, love over hate, peace over anger, I am even more driven to ensure my work with Little Proud Kid continues to  serve minorities and undeserved cultures while promoting multiculturalism  and acceptance of all people. 

In hindsight, I've come face to face with my own inner Trump one too many times in relationships that no longer served me as well as in response to some of the recent atrocities observed in the news and on social media. (Yes, my takeaway begins with continued self healing). I owe it to myself to consider that what I'm observing in our nation today is an even greater call to become the change I need - for myself, as a mom, daughter, sister, friend and entrepreneur. 



So again, I extend an invitation to anyone with whom article resonates to turn the lens inward, examine what role you play by way of thought, action or emotion that contribute to divisions and chaos in your own life. And decide today to become the change you need and I truly believe our individual efforts will collectively reshape the world in which we live. 

 Peace and Love,

Georgia Lobban 


Georgia Lobban is the Founder of Little Proud Kid, a place to celebrate all people… one people. We focus on bringing an array of multicultural toys, books, resources and more to help you teach and celebrate the uniqueness in each and every child.


Why we need to support black-owned businesses

Businesses are places we frequent every day. We pick up a pizza on the way home, get our nails done on Saturdays and scour the racks of consignment stores for affordable children’s clothes — that they’ll grow out of in a month! Businesses drive our communities, and the economies of those communities, which is why supporting local establishments is so important.

Having said that, black people overwhelmingly do not support black-owned businesses, which in turn don’t support the communities where black-owned businesses reside. Unlike other races and cultures — such as the Jewish, Hispanic and Chinese communities, which vigorously support one another’s businesses — black-owned business don’t get the same support within their own community. Jasmine Goodwin wrote in a blog post addressing this topic, “Unlike other races where they are prideful of their people no matter the socioeconomic status or difference in skin complexion, black people rather separate… no matter if it’s in the classroom or in the corporate world, there seems to be a hesitation in black people supporting one another.” So what’s the reason for this hesitation?

It's time to get past the stigma
There seems to be a stigma associated with African-American products. They are considered low quality and less valuable when compared with products made by another race. Despite the fact that this is not accurate, the thinking persists both within the African-American community and across all races. Lisa-Marie from says, “We don’t like ourselves, so we don’t trust ourselves enough to support one another.” This conversation is so complex, as this obviously goes beyond a simple sale. It’s the learned associations we have made through consistent messages telling us that “black products” are not as good as “white products.”

Not only is there this idea that there's a lack of value in black-owned or produced products, but there isn’t even any money to be made in this space. However, consider, for example, that BET, Essence magazine and Dark and Lovely are all white-owned mega-successful companies, some surpassing the billion-dollar mark, and that myth can easily be dispelled. Yet it lingers. We need to eliminate these untruths so we can finally move toward change.

It is not only important for black people to support black-owned businesses, it is important for non-blacks as well. Aaron J. Barnes, founder of Dapper Black Box, says, “While authority figures and media outlets continue to devalue our existence in this country, we still turn around and invest into companies owned by people who keep that system of injustice intact... we encourage all people but especially black people of the United States to invest into our own businesses to increase the longevity and influence within our community.”

This change and shift is essential for everyone. Making a conscious shift in thinking (thoughts we all have been programmed to think) and supporting black-owned businesses can create jobs, build up communities and provide economic prosperity. In turn, this can help decrease crime by infusing money into communities, which can then support schools, libraries and community centers. The children of that community — and of all communities — who grow up seeing businesses owned by all races will understand there is a level playing field in the world of entrepreneurship and that everyone has access to the American dream. Don’t our children deserve to live in a world of diversity shown in every facet of our communities?

This comes back to everything my company, Little Proud Kid, stands for — and its entire mission. We need to be the change we want for our children. Let black children know they can be business owners themselves and show non-black kids the diversity that lies outside of chain stores.

So, we ask you in honor of Black History Month (and every month) to support a black-owned business and share a picture of that business or product with us! You can post your photo to our Facebook page, tweet us @LittleProudKid or tag us in your photo via Instagram with #LPKSupportBlackBusiness. Will you accept the challenge? If you need some inspiration to get started, here are some of our favorite black-owned businesses:

Previously published by She Knows 2.20.16

Georgia Lobban is the founder of Little Proud Kid, a place to celebrate all people… one people. Little Proud Kid brings an array of multicultural toys, books, resources and more to help you teach and celebrate the uniqueness in each and every child.